1.
Evaluate what the girl values in herself. The first thing
you’ll want to do is think about the girl and what you know she values in
herself. Girls are conditioned to shy away from compliments and she’ll be
much more open to accepting a compliment she agrees with. Notice what she’s
proud of, from your experiences with her and compliment her on those things.
For example, if she’s clearly very eager to share something
she’s done with other people, that’s something you could compliment her on.
2.
Consider what she struggles with or works on. Like yourself
or anyone else, she probably likes to have her hard work validated. If you know
she’s worked very hard on something or that there’s something she feels
inadequate or self-conscious about, you
can try complimenting her on that. This
can be tricky though, so be careful how you do it.
For example, if she complains that she hates her nose, tell
her that you think it’s cute.
Another example would be if she clearly tries to work very
hard in school, compliment her either on her work ethic, her determination, or
her intelligence.
For this type of compliment, whatever you
compliment her on has to be honest. Don’t say something you don’t mean just to
find something to compliment her .
3.
Think about the things that she values in you or other
people. Look back on the conversations you’ve had with her and find things to
compliment her on that you know she values but thinks that she doesn’t possess.
Maybe you noticed that she told you she likes how hard you fight for the things
that you want, but she fights just as hard. Maybe you noticed that she said she
wished she had a figure like some other girl, but you think her figure is
better.
It is important to consider whether or not she actually possesses
the quality you want to compliment her on. Telling her she’s good at something
that she’s not will catch her notice and she’ll know you don’t mean it.
4.Compliment her personality. The best thing to compliment a
girl on is her personality. This is something that she has a certain amount of
control over and it is something that is intrinsically her, rather than
something like clothing which usually has very little to do with her and who
she is. Think about the things that you like about who she is as a person and
what she does, then Compliment her on that..
5.
Compliment her accomplishments. You can also compliment her
accomplishments. This is something she also has control over and that says
something about who she is as a person. Think about the things that she worked
hard for or things she did that you admired, like helping someone or doing the
right thing in a tough situation, and compliment her on that.
Importantly, it is also something that can’t be taken away
from her or that can change with time. This means that she won’t have to fear
losing this quality, and can be happy when she thinks about this compliment for
the rest of her life.
6.
Compliment her from your heart. You don’t have to overthink
compliments. You can just compliment her naturally, by saying exactly how you
feel. Speak from your heart and the perfect compliment should come out. The
trick to doing this, though, is that you have to respect and value her first.
It’s not respecting her that could lead you to saying something offensive.
7.
Just tell her she’s beautiful. It doesn’t have to be
complex or followed up with qualifiers. You don’t have to explain what you find
beautiful. Just tell her that she’s beautiful. Following this up with and “I
love you” when appropriate also won’t hurt you.
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